Well, let’s go back to your list of activities. To keep limbo from pulling you into the atmosphere, doomed to float forever and ever — you need an anchor that keeps you grounded in your identity. Remembering who you are and what drives you is key to avoiding an eternal state of lostness.
So the first thing you need to look at is your routines: what is a short activity that you can do first thing upon waking, and just before you retire for bed? It can be two different things, but it needs to be something that fills you with the same sense of relief or glee that your list does. It could be the simple act of listing three things you’re really grateful for, meditation, or simply enjoying the feel of your bed for a few minutes before you start the rush of your day. Get into your body and explore how it feels; perhaps you could spend a few minutes remembering a place that brought about that same sense of relief or excitement.
Which brings me to my next point: when you cannot currently reach the ideal circumstances, make do with the circumstances you’ve got by embodying a percentage of the emotion you desire. A mouthful, I know, but here’s what I mean by this: I love to do long drives, right? But in essence, what is it I’m after? Beautiful scenery, movement, exploration, nature. Great — so what can I invite into my life that includes those elements? One seemingly silly replacement would be exploring an RPG, or watching beautiful videos of places I haven’t been to — or visualising the places I have been along with the memory of the emotion I felt. And instead of focusing on the lack (“Damn, I wish I could actually be there instead of visualising it”), I could focus on how lucky I am to have experienced such relaxing and exciting places in my life.
Perhaps, in this anchor-less time, you don’t need to find the ideal anchor. Perhaps, that pebble from the beach would be a great temporary reminder of the beach you miss, or maybe that paperweight pyramid will make do for when you can’t travel to wonderful places like Egypt. Perhaps we can ground ourselves for now, without actually touching the ground.
So: what could ground you, in a time when it feels like you can’t reach your anchor?
PS If you feel drawn to my work, let’s start a conversation on how my work could help you get out of limbo.